Matrescence: The Metamorphosis into Motherhood

Becoming a mother is a profound and transformative journey that goes beyond the physical changes of pregnancy. Matrescence, a term coined by Dana Raphael in 1973, should be as well known as the term adolescence, to help provide language, empathy and understanding to the experience. However, it has taken fifty years for it to start being used, and even now not many people know its meaning. It encompasses the developmental phase of new motherhood, and the psychological and emotional evolution a woman experiences on her journey. A metamorphosis of surging hormones, a changing body, identity and relationships. Where the heart expands, and self-discovery unfolds. Matrescence acknowledges that the transition into motherhood involves not just the birth of a child but the birth of a mother, and the recurrence of this lived experience with each child. When mothers are given the opportunity to be held and supported through this experience, to be mothered. The tender strength and resilience which shines through is magnificent.

Here are some tips on how to embrace this process.

1. Self-Compassion

Recognise that the emotional turbulence during this time is normal. Offer yourself compassion and understand that growth and transformation often come with challenges. That it’s ok to be vulnerable and there is beauty and courage in being there. That accepting help does not mean you have failed.

2. Build a Support System

Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, and fellow mothers who can provide empathy, advice, and a sense of community. Knowing you have people that you can rely on and look out for, who will also look out for you.

3. Open Communication

Have honest conversations with others, it can make a huge impact on your wellbeing. This trickles down to include the health and wellbeing of your child and family system. Open and honest communication can foster understanding and strengthen your connections.

4. Self-Care

Prioritise self-care to nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Taking time for yourself is not selfish but a crucial aspect of being a healthy and present mother. In ancient cultures around the globe mothers were bathed, fed nutritious meals, given massages and supported. Some still do follow these rituals.

Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time, nourishment, sunshine and a little pruning. You are blooming into the beautiful flower of your being.

Navigating Matrescence

Rather than viewing matresence as a challenge to overcome, celebrate it as a powerful and beautiful transformation.

As you navigate this time, remember that you are not alone and to reach out to your community.

If you feel like this transformation is too much and you are having trouble processing it, seeking professional help can be a healthy solution. Each journey is unique, and deserves to be acknowledged as well as celebrated. If you need guidance on finding a professional to talk to send me an message and I’ll be happy to share the wonderful humans in my network.